I have a problem. I am a Premature-ejaculator. I have had this problem for years and it is VERY embarrassing. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and every time we make love, I “spill” the milk before I am supposed to.
My girlfriend has been understanding about all of this but would obviously like the problem rectified. I have been to my Urologist and he has made some suggestions but they haven’t seemed to work.
I know you are not a Dr. Sooz but you ARE somewhat of a sex expert and anything you could do to help me would be greatly appreciated.
Spilling the Beans
First of all, thank you for that GLOWING comment about me being a sex expert, (Flips red hair from side to side and smiles). Tell me…At the risk of being RUDE, do you watch a lot of porn? If you do, ease off. The more porn you watch and then ejaculate, the more you are contributing to your problem.
Here are a couple of things that you could try that should help. The next time you make love, when you feel like you are going to “Go for the Gold”, STOP… That’s right, completely stop for a minute and relax. When the feeling passes, start again and do the same thing. I suggest trying this 3 or 4 times before you let Mr. Happy spray a volcano.
You could also try a “Mr. Happy Ring”, OK; they are not actually CALLED Mr. Happy rings, but the man or woman at the store will know what you are talking about. These can be purchased at any sex store and should help you once fully erect, last longer.
A third suggestion would be to masturbate ahead of time. This will slow down the NEED for ejaculation when you are making love. I hope this has helped you but remember, Practice…Practice….Practice. Good Luck…