My problem is I am not getting enough sex from my wife. We started out like gangbusters and would have sex every night and twice on the weekends. Now, however, we are only making love about once per week.
We are both still young Sooz, my wife is 32 and I am 33. The sex just started to diminish since the arrival of our son.
I realize that taking care of a household (She doesn’t work outside the home) is tough, but I feel rejected and lonely without our lovemaking. What can we do to re-kindle our relationship again like it used to be?
Dear Sexless Husband:
Let me say this, if your relationship with your wife is strong, then you have a good chance of working this out. Understand that taking care of a baby is HARD work, that, plus the housework, you wife is probably physically exhausted by the end of the day. I am sure that the only thing she is feeling is a nice warm bed and 8 hours of sleep.
That being said, there are many things you can do to help rekindle your sex relationships. First of all, TALK to her about it. Let her know how YOU feel and I am sure she will be a willing listener. More than likely SHE already KNOWS and was feeling terrible about it herself.
Try helping her out a little more than you already may be doing, let her KNOW you love her by seeing what you can do to help her feel less tired. Schedule sexual appointment times, whether it’s in the mornings or at night.
Sometimes boredom creeps into the bedroom. Try spicing things up a bit, change your routine, touch her for a longer time before jumping into lovemaking, let her know that she is the most beautiful woman who ever walked this planet. Many times, this will help rekindle the relationship.
Try and schedule at least 1 night a week for date night. It doesn’t have to be fancy, perhaps just a movie and some wine together where it is YOUR time together. Make the most of that time by catering to her and giving her the attention she needs.
Will you ever be up to 7 times a week again…NO, kiss that goodbye, things are different now. Just make the times that you do get together special, and rely on each other’s love to get you through the tough times. Good Luck!!!