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Dear Sooz:

For a while now, I have wondered how broken you have be before you’re too far gone to be saved. I used to think I was too far gone, but then an old friend came back into my life we’ll call him guy x,  and he showed me that I could be loved.

I started to fall for him, but he was stuck between me and another girl. For a while, he flirted with both of us and said he didn’t know which of us to choose. At first, we overlooked it because, well, he was a guy and you know how guys can be.

After I became friends with the other girl, and realized how great of a person she was, that’s when I realized how much pain it was really causing us. At first, I didn’t notice my pain, but when I did,  I pushed it back inside.

I knew I needed to do something for myself, but it still shattered my heart. Now, I am starting to get to be friends with this other guy, we’ll call guy m. I told guy x that we should just go back to being just friends because the other way was causing too much pain.

The other girl introduced me to guy m, and we are still getting to know each other. He is very kind, and funny, and I think I’m starting to like him. Here’s the thing, he likes me, but I’m afraid… What if I fall for him and get hurt, or, what if I’m not good enough? What if he deserves better? What should I do Sooz?

Broken Girl 18


Dear Broken Girl 18:

Here is what I have learned through many relationships in life. “Nothing ventured, nothing gained” Life is a crapshoot my dear, being only 18, you will probably get your heart broken several more times before finding Mr. Right.

Don’t let the bad taste of one bad apple sour you on the other apples in the tree. You deserve to be happy, take a chance, fall in love, lust, and have some fun. If it works out, great, if it doesn’t, well,  move on and go to the next man.

Take a chance with guy M and be happy while you can. Good luck.





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Dear Sooz:

Hello Dreamshadow, I have a question to ask Sooz. It is for my friend, of course. “I work in sales at a company that sells, office supplies. It is a decent job and my coworkers are pretty cool for the most part, but there is this one sales guy who is always very serious and way over the top about everything. 

 My BF also works here and we have been pranking this, “way too serious guy” for years. Keep in mind that these are never truly harmful pranks and he generally takes it well. This one time, we left a voodoo doll on his desk with one pin in it on the right thigh. 

 What he didn’t know is that the metal pin was actually a touch-sensitive contact that activated a small remote vibrating buzzer device that my BF had in his pocket. When the pin was touched, the small device buzzed silently and my BF would yell, “OUCH!” from anywhere in the office and grab his “boo boo”. 

Then BF would rub his thigh and say things like, “I really need to get this checked out.” Mr. Oh-So-Serious began to think he had power over my BF. After a couple days we left a doll that resembled the guy on my BF’s desk. 

 When BF got into the office, he picked it up and when the serious guy noticed, he looked panicked. Later in the day, BF got a cancellation over the phone, and pretended to be upset about it. He jabbed the doll mindlessly with a pair of scissors, missed the torso, and stuck it in the doll’s upper-right arm.


The man walked around rubbing his bicep for several hours. This went on for quite a while, and the guy actually ended up stealing the doll. We caught him, and he was super embarrassed, but as you can see it was a truly harmless prank. Lately, we have been running short on pranks. I mean after 10 years of this thing has gotten a bit stale. What should we do SOOZ?

 Devious Prankster


Dear Devious Prankster:

Hey, I’ve played MY share of practical jokes on people, but never any that really messed with someone’s head. Why don’t you and your best friend just invite the guy out for a few beers, get to really know him a little better and end all of this tomfoolery.

One of these days you or your best friend may need him for something and would want him to be on YOUR team. Play nice boys, remember, “KARMA is a BITCH”…



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Dear Sooz:

I am writing you today because I need some advice. My mother is 62 and she has recently been diagnosed with early onset Alzerheimers disease. I am just beside myself Sooz.

It breaks my heart seeing her decline on such a rapid basis. Once a professor, she now forgets things that have happened in the not too distant past. I have been to several Dr’s., and they have all given me the same diagnosis.

I can’t seem to deal with the previous memories of us and the thoughts of the future. Currently, I am her caregiver, and my heart just breaks on a daily basis. What can I do to help with my growing sad feelings?

Heart Broken


Dear Heart Broken:

First, let me say how sorry I am for both YOU and your mom. This is a HORRIBLE disease that strips one of his/her dignity. The caregiver has the toughest job as you have demonstrated, and while I applaud your selflessness, I emphasize with your feelings.

If you can, try and get some help with the Caregiving so you can do things like go to support groups for Alzheimer’s caregivers. These groups I have heard are very helpful, and help with the same feelings you are going through now.

Again, I applaud you and will send you some groups in your area. I wish you all the best.





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Dear Sooz:

My problem is I am not getting enough sex from my wife. We started out like gangbusters and would have sex every night and twice on the weekends. Now, however, we are only making love about once per week.

We are both still young Sooz, my wife is 32 and I am 33. The sex just started to diminish since the arrival of our son.

I realize that taking care of a household (She doesn’t work outside the home) is tough, but I feel rejected and lonely without our lovemaking. What can we do to re-kindle our relationship again like it used to be?

Sexless Husband


Dear Sexless Husband:

Let me say this, if your relationship with your wife is strong, then you have a good chance of working this out. Understand that taking care of a baby is HARD work, that, plus the housework, you wife is probably physically exhausted by the end of the day. I am sure that the only thing she is feeling is a nice warm bed and 8 hours of sleep.

That being said, there are many things you can do to help rekindle your sex relationships. First of all, TALK to her about it. Let her know how YOU feel and I am sure she will be a willing listener. More than likely SHE already KNOWS and was feeling terrible about it herself.

Try helping her out a little more than you already may be doing, let her KNOW you love her by seeing what you can do to help her feel less tired. Schedule sexual appointment times, whether it’s in the mornings or at night.

Sometimes boredom creeps into the bedroom. Try spicing things up a bit, change your routine, touch her for a longer time before jumping into lovemaking, let her know that she is the most beautiful woman who ever walked this planet. Many times, this will help rekindle the relationship.

Try and schedule at least 1 night a week for date night. It doesn’t have to be fancy, perhaps just a movie and some wine together where it is YOUR time together. Make the most of that time by catering to her and giving her the attention she needs.

Will you ever be up to 7 times a week again…NO, kiss that goodbye, things are different now. Just make the times that you do get together special, and rely on each other’s love to get you through the tough times. Good Luck!!!

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Dear Sooz:

I have a problem. I have been divorced for 8 years now, but can not get over the guilt of my failed marriage. My ex has moved on and remarried leaving me with the bitter thoughts of hatred and revenge.

At night, I obsess and think about how I can get back at him and make his life miserable. This gives me some pause and yet, I know what I am feeling is wrong. Counselling has not worked for me and I still harbor these feelings of anger and resentment.

Why does life have to be so hard Sooz, why can’t he feel the pain and anger that possess me? Your help would be appreciated.

Wacko Ex


Dear Wacko Ex:


It sounds as if you need to STOP seeing your current counselor and start seeing someone who can actually help you. Your feelings are NORMAL for a short time after any divorce, however, you should have moved past that anger and resentment after 8 years.

Keep yourself busy with work and other activities. Get a hobby, join a gym, get out and meet people. The busier you stay, the less focus you will put on feeling miserable.

Definitely see another counselor, however, someone who can help you this time. Support groups for divorcees are also a good thing to attend. I’m sure that if you take my advice, you will be on the right track towards feeling well-adjusted. Good Luck.




Just Ask Sooz


Dear Sooz:

Recently, my boyfriend of 8 years dumped me for another woman. No rhyme or reason from him, just a, “We need to see other people”. What the Hell? For 8 years I have been his best friend, confidant, and sex partner, and all I get is, “ We need to see other people”.

Why is life so cruel? How can I go on and ever believe that one day I will really meet Mr. Right? I mean 8 fucking good years Sooz, and then like an old dog bone, I was just thrown away.

I am so angry and hurt; I don’t know how to deal with my feelings. I considered suicide, but then, I thought better of it. I got drunker than a skunk, but all I got from that was a huge hangover the next day.

My girlfriends all tell me to find someone else and move on, but at this point, I don’t know whether I want to see anyone else or not. I am just hurting so much.

Any advice you could offer me to help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for listening to me.

Rag Doll


Dear Rag Doll:

Sometimes LIFE SUCKS, there is no getting around that. He seems to be a real dick head to me and if the truth be told, you are probably better off without him.

Go out with your girlfriends and keep busy. Eventually, the pain and anger will subside and you will be able to move on, this I know from personal experience, believe me.

The saying, “Time heals all wounds” is true, there is NO quick fix here, keep busy and eventually the pain you are experiencing will lessen and let you be able to carry on normally again. Good Luck.





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Dear Sooz:

I could really use your thoughts. I have been married to my husband for 38 years and everything was good up till last year. You see, for years we both enjoyed a wonderful sex life.

Last year, our sex life became nil, for no rhyme or reason. I discussed it with my husband ad he claims; recently, he has just become too tired for sex. This is very unusual Sooz as he has always enjoyed a very healthy sex life.

He owns his own business and occasionally works late, but recently, he has been working every night. He claims that he has done inventory and has needed to spend time there.

I am worried that he is having an affair, what do you think?

Worried Nellie


Dear Worried Nellie:

If you feel that strongly about him cheating on you, hire a private investigator. In MY opinion, his working late and not being a spring chicken anymore, he probably IS tired and need to sleep.

Give him the benefit of the doubt, unless you actually find out that he is REALLY cheating. If he IS cheating, dump that bastard and take him for everything he is worth.

Good luck to you.



Drunk Again

It’s 2:30 in the afternoon, I’m drunk, and I NEED sex. That first drink really messed me up on that date with my professor. I KNEW I shouldn’t have imbibed, but as I said, beautiful women are my kryptonite. Damn…

Today, I had the taste, just like years ago, I NEEDED a drink or ten. I got up, went to the liquor store and bought me a bottle of Gray Goose Vodka and then, bought some cranberry juice.

Vodka and cranberry have always been my drink of choice, and as I mentioned, I had the need. The sensation of being relaxed, and not in control for a change, egged me on like a dog to a steak.

The first drink went down so smooth I immediately had to refill my glass until I am in the current state I am in. Am I PROUD of myself, NO, but as I said, I am NOT a saint and I needed to relax.

As per usual, when I drink to the point of intoxication, I NEED sex. Just to give you some insight, my pants are already off and I have been feeling my wet pussy with a vibrator.

Man I’m feelin’ good. I realize this blog is a little salacious, but I really could NOT help myself. If you’ll excuse me, I need to feel my tits with my other hand now so I can CUM.

Sorry if this offended anyone…I just love writing when I’m drunk… Bye for now…MUAH!!!!!



Just Ask Sooz

Dear Sooz:

I have a major problem and I was hoping you could give me some advice. You see Sooz, I have been having an affair with another man now for 3 years. He is not only sweet and kind, but he is also adventurous when it comes to sex.

Now to give you some background, my husband is also a sweet and kind loving man, he and I have been married now for over 20 years and our life has been very good. The problem is, he is 15 years my senior and has slowed down in the sexual department.

I need sex Sooz, and when I go to my husband about it, he just says that he will be better but never does. I know that having an affair is wrong, but I would miss the sex.

I am so torn; I don’t know what to do. You see, I love my husband, but I just can’t keep going without sex. What should I do?



Dear Torn:

I am NOT a priest honey; I can NOT condone your affair even though I understand what you are going through. If your husband ever found out do you think that HE would UNDERSTAND?

Since you tell me that you love your husband, my suggestion to you would be to Leave this affair behind and see if there is another way to stimulate your husband’s desire. Perhaps shots of Testosterone would help. Have him see a Urologist and see if there is something to re-light that fire over his balls.

While I have had sex with many a married man, I can NOT give you my blessing on this one…Sorry.



Just Ask Sooz

Dear Sooz:

 I need your help. Usually, my husband is a red hot chili pepper in the bedroom. He does all kinds of kinky and normal moves that are great, and they wear me out. I could never say he is boring in the bedroom.

Recently, however, he has become somewhat resistant to make love and I am wondering if he is having an affair. I love my husband Sooz, he is handsome and sexy and I don’t want to lose him.

I am kind of afraid to question him as he is Latin and has a very quick temper when annoyed. What would you suggest I do to get my sexy Latin lover back again?

Needs Tender Loving Touch


Dear Needs Tender Loving Touch:

Don’t question him about it unless there are OTHER telltale signs:

  1. Credit card receipts with unusual expenses
  2. Perfume smell on his clothes
  3. Late night working more than usual
  4. Change in his usual demeanor
  5. Hiding his phone or adding a password on his computer
  6. Lack of interest in sex

If you notice two or three of these I would definitely confront him about it. You could always hire a private eye, but they’re expensive and would be the last thing I would do.

Follow him on one of his “late” nights, see where he goes, and then you will be able to tell if he is a bad boy or not; UNLESS of course he is dating somebody AT is work.

I really don’t know much about him except what you have described. It COULD be the poor guy is stressed out about something or has other pressing problems he is not sharing with you.

Ask him how he has been feeling, is he stressed, is there something you can help him with? Tell him you are his teammate and you want to help him anyway you can. This might just do the trick.

I sincerely hope you can work this out without finding that he is having an affair. Good luck.