A Line from Sooz

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Many of you know that I have been seeing a woman from France, you ALSO know that I am a recovering alcoholic, (Or drunk as I don’t attend meetings), here’s the thing, my recovery as slipped due to her.

Do I want to be a drunk for the rest of my life, no, do I want to continue seeing this woman who I am developing feelings for, yes, I am so confused right now. You see, as I write this I am PISSED. For those who don’t understand Gahlic, I’m drunk.

As always, it started with one drink of wine, then another and so on, now, I look forward to getting drunk with Bella and having incredible sex. You see, she is the only one I have found, who ALSO has a compatible sex drive like mine.

The more I drink, the more I want to drink, as it makes me feel Veeerrry Seeexxxxy, Meowwwwww…Bella loves to drink and get pissed, so do I but then I don’t want to LIVE the drunkard lifestyle anymore. I have taken a long time trying to get OVER this addiction and yet, it keeps pulling me back in.

I am at a crossroads here, I am falling in love with this woman, but, I realize that her habits are very bad for my sobriety. What to do, what to do? Perhaps I should Just Ask Sooz and see what SHE says, hehehehehehe.

If anyone has any thoughts on this that could help, please feel free to dish it out. I could really use the voice of reason right about now. God, it has taken me 3 times to write this….Hehehehehehehe.

Time to masturbate, MUAH to ALL!!!!!

Just Ask Sooz

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Dear Sooz:

I could really use your help. My parents are from India and are very old school when it comes to getting married. My parents believe in arranged marriages, and have already made an arranged marriage for me.

I am really in a pickle here because I am already in a serious relationship. Not only are my parents against him, he is also outside of my race. I am so confused.

If I continue my relationship with my boyfriend, I may very well lose the respect and love of my parents. If I go through with the arranged marriage,

I will be doing myself a disservice and my heart will be broken. I am really torn Sooz, what shall I do?

Torn Soul

 

Dear Torn Soul:

This is America baby, everyone is entitled to choose who THEY want, NOT your parents. While I realize that this is a very old tradition in your Indian culture, you must discuss this with your parents and make them see it YOUR way.

Let them know that you love them, but your happiness should NOT be IMPOSED upon you. I believe your parents will see your side of this, if NOT, they are still your parents and will eventually get over it.

This is your life and should live it accordingly. Good Luck…

 

 

Just Ask Sooz

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Dear Sooz:

I read your column all the time and I was hoping you could answer a question for me. You see, my wife and I have a terrific sex life, but, she has to be dead drunk in order to achieve orgasm.

I love my wife, we’ve been married 15 years, but I would like to have sober sex with her. The problem has been every time we have tried it sober, she never comes to orgasm. Give her a bottle and a half or two of wine however, and she becomes a sexual goddess. The funny part is, she usually doesn’t get drunk anyother time.

I guess I am glad that she “wants” to have sex and orgasm with me enough to get drunk, I just wish there was something I could say or do to help her overcome her inhibitions towards sex while sober.

I understand you are an alcoholic who also enjoys having sex while drunk. What’s the thought process behind this? Plese help me if you can.

Concerned Husband

 

Dear Concerned Husband:

To pin point this is difficult as there are a number of reasons for this. One, it MIGHT depend on how she grew up and her parents attitudes about sex, or, she may feel uncomfortable about sex in general where as the alcohol takes those inhibitions away.

She might just have a low libido, many women do. Sometime testosterone drug therapy helps these women. What I would suggest is to have her see her Dr. if possible and see what he or she says about this.

The Dr. may reccomend a specialist who may be able to help and hopefully you can return to a “normal” sex life. I must tell you though, for ME, I still like to be drunk when engaging in sex.

I sincerely hope that she goes to the Dr. and explains her perticulars. Good luck with this.

Just Ask Sooz

 

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Dear Sooz:

I am writing you today because I need some advice. My mother is 62 and she has recently been diagnosed with early onset Alzerheimers disease. I am just beside myself Sooz.

It breaks my heart seeing her decline on such a rapid basis. Once a professor, she now forgets things that have happened in the not too distant past. I have been to several Dr’s., and they have all given me the same diagnosis.

I can’t seem to deal with the previous memories of us and the thoughts of the future. Currently, I am her caregiver, and my heart just breaks on a daily basis. What can I do to help with my growing sad feelings?

Heart Broken

 

Dear Heart Broken:

First, let me say how sorry I am for both YOU and your mom. This is a HORRIBLE disease that strips one of his/her dignity. The caregiver has the toughest job as you have demonstrated, and while I applaud your selflessness, I emphasize with your feelings.

If you can, try and get some help with the Caregiving so you can do things like go to support groups for Alzheimer’s caregivers. These groups I have heard are very helpful, and help with the same feelings you are going through now.

Again, I applaud you and will send you some groups in your area. I wish you all the best.

 

 

 

 

Valentine’s Day

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Today is Valentine’s Day, and I would like to wish ALL of you a Happy Valentine’s Day. For many, this day is a celebration of love that two people have for each other, for others, it merely becomes a lonely reminder of what we once had, or a realization that we are still alone and may never experience that great gift.

For those of you of the latter, I will share with you some advice. First off, be true to YOURSELF. While you might not have a man or woman to share your vast love, remember that YOU are number one and can have anything you want as long as you fight hard enough for it.

If you truly want love to happen, it will, be yourself, put a little more UMPH in your walk, and wear a big smile across your face. If you are always friendly towards others, eventually you will find Mr. or MS. Right.

Go out, join a gym, or take a dance class, Mr. /Ms. Right are OUT there, you just have to connect with them. If you sit in your home, NOTHING will happen, join the world and experience all that life has to give.

For those of you who are lucky enough to have FOUND your partner, I say Celebrate to the fullest and let each other know that they’re your soulmate, and that you love them dearly.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone, I’ll be thinking of you…

Until Later…

 

 

Time

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Interestingly enough, I find myself  looking back at my life and examining all the things I have done, both good and bad. Time is something that none of us have control over, nor do we KNOW for certain how long we each have on this wonderful planet.

Whether you believe in a higher power or not, what matters IS how can we make the most of our short stay here, and can we somehow better ourselves, and our fellow man?

Time is something that has always been in the forefront of my mind in some way or another. Do I have enough time to complete that project, IS there enough time to get and accomplish all of my goals, and is it possible to extend time somehow?

The truth is, NO one knows, that is why we should live each day like it is our last. Be good to one another, help those in need if you can, and probably most important, be compassionate and forgiving. Way too much of our precious time here is wasted on silly things like anger, frustration, and greed.

Live for today, let GO of any anger you may have brewing within you, you will not only feel better, but you will LIVE longer. People NEED forgiveness…Forgive them and rebuild the love for your fellow man.

Remember, the path to righteousness starts with YOU. Spend what time you have here being happy and helping others, if you DO, your time will have been well spent.

Happy New Year!!!

 

 

A Letter to Santa

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Dear Santa

As I write this letter, I am thinking about what to ask for this Christmas. Oh sure, it would be nice to get gifts from Victoria Secret, or jewelry trinkets, but, for this year, I have decided on the following:

My sole wish would be for everyone in the world to live in peace and harmony.   I realize that this is a bit altruistic, however, I also believe that people are inherently good, and that they all want the same things for themselves and their families.

Just think of it Santa, a world where everyone lives in total peace with NO wars anywhere. This would definitely be my first on my list.

Secondly, I would like it if ALL the people in the world had no more hunger or suffering. I know, a tall wish, but hey, I can dream can’t I? If every nation that had surpluses could give to those in need, I believe that world hunger could be totally eradicated. What a great world that would be to live in.

Lastly, but most important, I wish for love. Not just for me Santa, but for all of Humanity to embrace each other as friends and work alongside each other for the common good of Humanity.

Certainly I understand what I ask for is a tall order, but, if you could talk to the big GUY, perhaps those wishes could become reality. Here is hoping that you have some pull so my Christmas list is fulfilled.

Thanking you in advance for your kind listening ears,

Sooz

 

 

Just Ask Sooz

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Dear Sooz:

Recently, my boyfriend of 8 years dumped me for another woman. No rhyme or reason from him, just a, “We need to see other people”. What the Hell? For 8 years I have been his best friend, confidant, and sex partner, and all I get is, “ We need to see other people”.

Why is life so cruel? How can I go on and ever believe that one day I will really meet Mr. Right? I mean 8 fucking good years Sooz, and then like an old dog bone, I was just thrown away.

I am so angry and hurt; I don’t know how to deal with my feelings. I considered suicide, but then, I thought better of it. I got drunker than a skunk, but all I got from that was a huge hangover the next day.

My girlfriends all tell me to find someone else and move on, but at this point, I don’t know whether I want to see anyone else or not. I am just hurting so much.

Any advice you could offer me to help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for listening to me.

Rag Doll

 

Dear Rag Doll:

Sometimes LIFE SUCKS, there is no getting around that. He seems to be a real dick head to me and if the truth be told, you are probably better off without him.

Go out with your girlfriends and keep busy. Eventually, the pain and anger will subside and you will be able to move on, this I know from personal experience, believe me.

The saying, “Time heals all wounds” is true, there is NO quick fix here, keep busy and eventually the pain you are experiencing will lessen and let you be able to carry on normally again. Good Luck.

 

 

 

 

Just Ask Sooz

Dear Sooz:

I have been reading your posts for a long time now, and I have a question. I am a girl of 23 who lives with two roommates. One, I’ll call Paula, and also a boy maned Manny.

My question is this: Is it possible to fall in love with both of them? We have lived together now for 3 years and have become very friendly. I have dated both of them, and I think I am in love with both Manny and Paula.

As yet, I have not slept with either, but I believe that they both want to sleep with me. I am torn because I love them both and do not want the other one to get jealous. What’s your take on this?

Confused in Kentucky

 

Dear Confused in Kentucky:

Wow!!! You have really said a mouthful here. First off, you don’t seem to have any qualms about your sexuality, that’s good. At least you know and accept that you are bi-sexual.

As far as having sex with either or both, that’s a tricky one. Has either one of them made a move on you, or hinted that they WANT to sleep with you? If they have, then I would confront BOTH of them and tell them how you feel about them.

Then, if you sleep with one, at least the other will be aware of your feelings. Hopefully this will work out for you, but since you are only 23, I wouldn’t be jumping into anything just yet. Date for a while, see many people and THEN make your decisions.

Good luck…

 

 

Romance is in The Air

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Romance is in The Air

Today is Friday and I am feeling romantic, so I thought I would treat you to some of my favorite romantic poems. One of my favorites is by a brilliant poet, William Wadsworth, who wrote as if his emotion spilled out of his talented body.

“I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud” by William Wordsworth

   I wandered lonely as a cloud

   That floats on high o’er vales and hills,

   When all at once I saw a crowd,  

   A host, of golden daffodils;

   Beside the lake, beneath the trees,

   Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.

 

   Continuous as the stars that shine

   And twinkle on the milky way,

   They stretched in never-ending line

   Along the margin of a bay:

   Ten thousand saw I at a glance,

   Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.

 

   The waves beside them danced; but they

   Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:

   A poet could not but be gay,

   In such a jocund company:

   I gazed—and gazed—but little thought

   What wealth the show to me had brought:

 

   For oft, when on my couch I lie

   In vacant or in pensive mood,

   They flash upon that inward eye

   Which is the bliss of solitude;

   And then my heart with pleasure fills,

   And dances with the daffodils.

 

Of course, who could forget the beautiful and love filled poem by Robert Burns:

 

My Luve

O my luve is like a red, red rose,
That’s newly sprung in June:
O my luve is like the melodie,
That’s sweetly played in tune.

As fair art thou, my bonie lass,
So deep in luve am I;
And I will luve thee still, my dear,
Till a’ the seas gang dry.

Till a’ the seas gang dry, my dear,
And the rocks melt wi’ the sun;
And I will luve thee still my dear,
While the sands o’ life shall run.

And fare thee weel, my only luve!
And fare thee weel a while!
And I will come again, my luve,
Tho’ it were ten thousand mile.

I think my favorite love poem is inspired by Lord Byron and it goes like this:

She Walks in Beauty
Lord Byron (1788-1824)

The opening stanza is:

“She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes;
Thus mellowed to that tender light
Which heaven to gaudy day denies.

Ahhhhhh, such romance, such beautiful words and thoughts by some of the greats. I hope you have enjoyed these and will share them with your significant other or sweetheart.