The 10 Most Frequently Asked Questions I Get Asked About Sex


1.   How do you maneuver Cumming together?

         This is something that USUALLY takes a lot of practice. What you see on TV or read about in magazines or books is a fantasy. MOST couples    DON’T Cum together. The best way to achieve this is for BOTH couples to tease each other to the point of Cumming and then back off. Repeat this a few times and BOTH parties will be sexually turned on enough to cum at the same time.

    2.   I have NEVER had an Orgasm, how can I achieve one?


         I hear this all the time from women. The trick here is to learn how YOUR body works and what pleases you through masturbation. First, take a mirror and check out your vagina. While watching, feel your outer lips, then; pull it back to experience the rest of your inner lips… Gently touch yourself and see what feels good to you. Experiment with lubricant, dildos and vibrators. Practice this until you are able to experience an orgasm. Once YOU are able to achieve orgasm over and over, it will be a LOT easier to achieve with a partner.

    3.   How can I tell if I am Bisexual?

First off, let me say this, I don’t LIKE labels. Each of us are different. I, for example, knew I liked BOTH men and women when I was very young. If you are attracted to both, chances are that you are Bi-sexual. There is NOTHING wrong with that. We are attracted to who we are attracted to…Period.

    4.   I can’t seem to get enough sex, is there something WRONG with me?

NO…There is nothing wrong with you. We each have different levels of sex drives. There IS no “normal” sex drive. The only thing I would advise is to hook up with someone who has the same level of sex drive that you do. OR…Remain single and have at it.

    5.  Why is it that when guys have a lot of sex there is nothing wrong with it, when women do however, we are considered easy or sluts?

Thankfully, I believe that the double standard here is changing. People need to realize that what’s OK for one is certainly OK for the other. This caveman thinking is what has set us back for so long. Don’t sweat the small stuff…

    6.   Can men be multi-orgasmic?

While it is NOT common based on recovery time for the penis, studies have shown that a small percentage of men CAN experience multiple orgasms. Personally, I have never had this experience from ANY of my male lovers.

    7.   Can most women learn to squirt, (Have female ejaculations)?

Yes… This occurs usually through a G spot orgasm. This is one of the most amazing orgasms. Make sure your partner is trained in this technique and you will never want to let him/her go. If you want more information, please PM me for details on learning this technique. You MUST be 18 years or older for me to respond.

    8.   How can I achieve multiple orgasms?

You must be in a high state of excitement in order to achieve this experience. Once your partner gives you an orgasm, the easiest way is through oral stimulation. Many women have never experienced this wonderful feeling. The best way is to have your first orgasm through G spot stimulation. Many times the heightened orgasm will trigger others through clitoral stimulation.

    9.  Is anal intercourse unhealthy or unnatural?

No…As long as you have emptied your anal cavity earlier and are well groomed, there are no health issues…Nothing is unnatural. Just make sure that a LOT of lubricant is used and enter slowly and go deeper gradually. By doing this it will make things a lot less painful and you will BOTH enjoy the experience. Note: NEVER make your girlfriend try this if she is at ALL uncomfortable with the idea as it is NOT for everyone.

      10. Will alcohol or drugs enhance the orgasmic experience?

A glass or two of wine before sex will help relax you and will definitely add to the experience. Other drug use I can’t answer as I have never personally tried it. However, I definitely would NOT do any drugs that are not OK’d by the Government.



The Elusive “G” Spot


OK…ladies, guys, show me a raise of hands all of you that actually BELIEVE in the elusive “G” spot. So DAMN much emphasis has been placed on this fake little bean like area in the vagina that men have been trying since the 1940’s to not just bring us to orgasm, but poke and rub and poke some more looking for something that will send us off into some kind of Cartoon world of pleasure. IT AIN’T HAPPENING!!!!!

I just wanna say right here and now that if I EVER meet up with Dr. Grafenberg, I would like to PUNCH him in HIS “G” spot. Guys and girls alike…TRUST me, there IS no such place.

I know what you’re gonna say “But Sue…I have “FELT” the Earth move, I TRULY came harder than I EVER have in my life”. To this I say POPPYCOCK… Did you have a great Orgasm…yes, you probably did, BUT…was it because your partner said some magic words, waived his magic dildo over your Vagina and said, “COME HARDER THAN YOU EVER HAVE IN YOUR LIFE”…A…NO!!!

The truth is, we women orgasm once or multiple times mainly due to the length of time you spend on foreplay. For those guys who may NOT understand that word (and there are several out there who don’t, TRUST me), that means the same thing as prepping the food ahead of time in a restaurant.

Buy us dinner, ask about US, our wants and our needs, buy us roses, put 100 dollars in our pocket…. OOPS!!! …No….FORGET about that one, make us FEEL special. Then, take a while and prep us, tell us how much you desire us, feel us gently, kiss us till we just melt in your arms, usually if you do this for 20 or 30 minutes (Yes, I know it’s a BITCH guys), chances are we will have our first orgasm even before you penetrate us.

In many learned communities (Well, OK, at least those in the back woods of West Virginia), Dr.’s are not even sure IF such a place even exists. All I’m sayin’ here is, if you wanna KNOCK our socks off, just be attentive to us, love us and there will be NO NEED to search for the ever lasting treasure….The elusive “G” spot.

By the way,I am a licensed sex therapist and if anyone needs help here is this area, just give me a call at 1-480-9798 OR better yet stop by.

OK….I lied about being a sex therapist Sue me…

Until Later…