I have been reading your posts now for a while, and I think you are just the person I need for a straight answer. Here’s the problem, my husband and I have been married or two years and in all that time, I have NEVER experienced a vaginal orgasm.
If the truth be told, I have rarely even experienced a clitoral orgasm unless I give it to myself. Is it me, or, is it my husband? When I was single and masturbated, I always came to orgasm, now, however, it’s like hit or miss. What can I do to correct his problem?
Hot to Trot
Dear Hot to Trot:
Not to fear, Sooz is here. OK, that was cheesy, but STILL cute. Since you’ve mentioned coming to orgasm a lot when you were single, the problem is NOT you. I WILL say this, however, many women don’t easily have vaginal orgasms. It’s not to say you CAN’T, you just have to know where your G spot IS and what to do once you find it.
OK, first things first, TALK to your husband and let him know what ISN’T going on with you. SHOW him how to stimulate your clit, take his hand and GUIDE him first to get you really excited before having intercourse.
Once you are very wet and excited, “Mr. Happy” should be able to finish the job. Start slow, have him bring you to orgasm a few times with his hand, AFTER you’ve shown him what feels good to you. This should help improve your odds or having an orgasm exponentially.
Now, point two, Vaginal orgasms, this one must be learned and practiced before IF you can have them they become regular. Take two fingers and place them in your vagina, push them way up there and curl them until you feel a spongy area…THIS is your G spot. Using your fingers, (At first), slowly move them against your G spot in a come hither motion. Many times it may take up to a half hour or so before you explode, but BABY…You WILL explode.
Don’t be upset if you can’t do it at first, practice makes perfect. Once you get the hang of it, explain how to do it for your husband, and then Shoot for the moon…Good luck!!!